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On Self-Esteem, Self Improvement, Mental Health Promotion for Self Actualization, Imaginative Living and Happiness

Healthy Self-Esteem For Imaginative Living And Happiness

Dr. Oladele Akin-Ogundeji
President, Psychology Associates & OD Synergy (www.odsynergy.com)

Are you on top of your world emotionally, mentally and socially? Do you have what it takes to handle the stress and frustrations of the continuous discontinuities in a pulsating world? Are you focusing on imaginative living rather than imagined pastimes? Use the fundamental truths higlighted in this article to start repositioning your self-esteem for imaginative living and happiness!

Examine your attitudinal or mental choice in relation to yourself and your life. The basic truth about the root ofineffective self-esteem development is that in most cases people have chosen to tolerate their low self-esteem or ineffective self-esteem development. For such people, poor self-esteem is is a self-chosen past time. Therefore, refuse to cooperate withlow self-esteem! This may be the fundamental choice you have to make in shaping your attitude to yourself and to your life. This choice may be the starting point of imaginative living for you!

To move in the direction of healthy self-esteem development for imaginative living and happiness, have the right focus and focus on the right things. Focus on self-mastery and the capacity to be on top of things, particularly under stress and adversities. Focus on developing the quality of your emotional and mental state or capacity. Everything about you in terms of your life projects should have reinforcing effects to make you more emotionally and mentally competent or mature. Therefore,as far as possible, deliberately use, or engage in, experiences, relationships and activities having reinforcing effects towards developing healthy emotional and mental capacity.

Handle your life chances with perspective and vision. Life chances generally refer to the socio-economic opportunities, or lack of such opportunities, you were born into or which are foisted upon you by circumstances beyond your control.

Often, many people allow their poor or limited life chances to negatively affect them. On one extreme, they may feel pushed into obscurity or self denigration. While on the other extreme, they may exhibit attitudes and behaviors of rebelliousness, aggression or bitterness. They, in essence, allow their poor life chances to undermine their self-esteem development. Be constructive!

Realize that the choices you make in life tend to show up later in terms of positive or negative consequences. That is, you cannot run away from your life choices, in most cases that is.

Although some people do manage to flee the negative consequences of their life choices some of the time, generally you tend to get the bargain of your choices. If you really want healthy self-esteem and be on top of your world, treat whatever poor life chances you might have differently than you treat your life choices.

Decide to focus on your choices rather than on your chances. As a matter of choice, choose to discount whatever poor life chances you might have.

Understand that the capacity to discount your poor life chances is a powerful tool in getting your poise and self-esteem to start ticking. The ability to control the level of your worries often starts with how you see or handle your poor life chances.

Resolve to not allow your limited life chances to hinder your personal growth in terms of the quality of your emotional and mental state. Handle your limited or poor life chances well and your perception of yourself and of your self-esteem challenge will follow a positive course; and to boot, you would be moving in the direction of healthy self-esteem development for imaginative living and happiness!

Start today!

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Dr. O. Akin-Ogundeji , is based in Lagos, Nigeria. He holds PhD of the University of London and leads Better Poise Development Team , promoting people's capacity to be on top of their world and attain self actualization. He also leads OD Synergy, a strategic human resources and organizational development consulting firm in Africa.

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