Personal poise is at the heart of personal leadership and it is critical for self actualization and to being on top of your world.

Self-actualization entails being on top of your world—physically, emotionally, mentally, and socially. It is hindered by low self-esteem, self-defeating shyness, and emotional conflict.

Confidence building, better personal poise development, and self-mastery create the condition for self-actualization. Adding power to your poise is fundamental—and this should be a primary focus in your personal development effort.

The following tips would help you move in the direction of self-actualization.

Have the Right Focus

To move in the direction of better personal poise development for self-actualization, have the right focus,—and focus on the right things. Realize that personal poise is more than skin deep. Personal poise is far less a matter of appearance, no matter what you see in movies, celebrities, and pop stars. Poise has to do with self-mastery and the capacity to be on top of things,—particularly under stress and adversities.

Your experiences, your relationships, and your activities should have reinforcing effects on your emotional and mental capacity. Everything about you—in terms of your personal growth and vision of self-actualization—should have reinforcing effects to make you more emotionally and mentally competent or mature. Your focus should be on developing the quality of your emotional and mental state or capacity. Then direct your personal development effort at better handling the specifics of your personal poise problem or challenge.

If you have successfully understood this important concept of personal poise, congratulations! You would be on your way to adding power to your poise.

Address Three Questions for Personal Insight

At this point you should ask yourself the following three simple questions.

First, ask yourself: ‘Given my current situation, what can I do about my person to be more effective in company and in meeting the challenges of life?’

Second, ask: ‘What are those things I cannot do anything about or which are inevitable?’

The third question is a follow-through question, and it is this: ‘Specifically, what three things should I start doing now to deal with my personal poise challenge?’

In this exercise, you would need to analyze your personal poise level or poise challenge. Self-honesty is important in this self-discovery and self-focusing effort.

If you’d like to set an agenda on your personal poise empowerment or assess your poise level, consider taking a personal poise sampler—which is basic to moving you in the direction of better personal poise positioning or development.

To move in the direction of self-actualization and sustainable happiness, start resolving your self-esteem challenges.

Begin by taking fundamental steps that add power to your poise.

Discount Poor Life Chances

The choices you make in life tend to show up later in terms of positive or negative consequences.

That is, you cannot run away from your life choices, in most cases that is. Although some people do manage to flee the negative consequences of their life choices some of the time, generally, you would get the bargain of your choices.

You can treat your poor life chances differently than you treat your poor life choices if you choose to. And you should, if you want to empower your poise for self-actualization.

Your life chances, in this case poor life chances,—in terms of the limited socio-economic opportunities you were born into or which were foisted upon you—should not hinder your personal growth in terms of the quality of your emotional and mental state. They should not be the problems compounding your low self-esteem, self defeating diffidence or deprecating shyness. They should not be jeopardizing the power of poise you could muster for your personal success, social influence and self-realization.

Many people are pestered into obscurity by the overwhelming burden of their poor life chances. They have allowed themselves to be pushed into self-mitigating shyness by their perceived poor life chances.

The capacity to discount your poor life chances is a powerful tool in getting your poise to start ticking. The ability to control the level of your worries often starts with how you see or handle your poor life chances. Handle your limited or poor life chances well, and your perception of yourself and of your poise challenge would follow a positive course—and to boot, you would positively influence your life choices.

<p> The capacity to discount your poor life chances is a powerful tool in getting your poise to start ticking. The ability to control the level of your worries often starts with how you see or handle your poor life chances. </p>

Resist the Obvious Choice of Compromising With Low Self-Esteem

It is interesting to realize that often times, diffidence, low self-worth, shyness or lack of poise is promoted by not knowing the fundamental choice to make as a person.

Perhaps, the primary or the No.1 choice is this: Resolve to free yourself from self-defeating low self esteem or deprecating shyness. This choice has to do with understanding and accepting the obvious fact that shyness is a self-chosen pastime. It may sound strange, but that is the fundamental truth.

The integrated personal self-esteem and better poise builder, and its fore runners, used among many people in Africa, has shown in the course of over 30 years that shyness or lack of personal poise is a self-chosen course. People choose to be shy,—particularly when they are old enough to take solid steps in the direction of self-growth. Therefore, to empower your poise for self-actualization or to overcome shyness fast, resist the obvious choice you’ve made to cooperate with shyness! Resist compromising with low self-esteem.

Resolve now to reject your subtle, voluntary choice to be shy; to cling to your comfort zones or to be contented with your level of ineffectiveness based on lack of poise power. This important and obvious primary resolve has carried the day in each case where the personal poise builder has found a niche helping people to add power to their poise and move in the direction of self-actualization. This understanding, and the willingness to act on it, should spur you on doing what you should be doing to change or improve your poise circumstances. It should get you poised for sustainable self-confidence building. It should help you step in the direction of better poise development for personal growth and self-realization.

Do a Poise Development Check

You may need to check your level of self-esteem and personal poise development in order to know where to focus upon so that you could make good progress in the direction of self-growth for self-actualization and personal success.

If you want to take the pulse of your self-esteem and personal poise development level or have a quick check on your poise level, consider using a free personal poise development sampler. Learn More.